If friendship is real, only ego can sever the ties.
Recently Merlin came to me to speak of a friendship recently lost to me. His voice was so clear in my head that I did not need to write in order to hear. Later he came back to offer this for the blog.
Merlin: Almost everyone has suffered the demise of a friendship, sometimes unlamented and sometimes traumatic. This is not surprising as the ways of the world tend to throw us together in dramatic circumstances which may or may not hold up under future developments.
I have lived on the planet more than once, often as not to an advanced age. and I have seen the trauma that such separation can bring. I can say without exception that, if friendship is real, only ego can sever the ties.
I lived my most famous life in a time of extreme strife and struggle. One wrong step and life was over - and that was often one of the milder consequences. Yet friendship, when it endured, did so because understanding, connection, and karmic bonds were stronger than ego.
I see today the same drama play out in a myriad of variations, but in every case where the friendship failed, the ego of one or, more often, both, parties could not bear the challenge to its own authority and thus retreated to nurse its grievances, let them condense until their very center became unyielding, and then nothing, not the most grievous tragedy or exalted offering, could penetrate the fossilized core. Then friends become nothing more than hard marble balls clanging and bouncing off of each other.
Try not to let this happen if you can see it coming, or, if it has already occurred, find your own lessons and move on to a kinder, gentler space where even those who have done you wrong deserve understanding and respect, where the other's challenges are recognized as legitimate in the context of a life that you can only see through a glass darkly.
Then no matter whether the friendship lives or dies in the moment, love remains.
May 7, 2023
Rune: Wunjo, ᚹ,. Friendship, karmically attuned attachment.
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